Divorce

For most of the 7 hrs on this 8 hr shift I’ve been trying to decide on a topic for this evening’s post. Have a few things on my mind but oh, which to select?

Well, let’s start with FRIENDSHIP. What is friendship? How do we become good friends? How do you know what to say when your friend is hurting. OK, take my friend Roni, who is having a very hard time right now. Her husband of 30+ years left her for younger woman (cliché) who also happened to be Roni’s best friend (double cliché). To top off the whole devastating situation, he bought a house just down the street from Roni. If she wants to go to the beach or anything, she has to go by his house. They moved in together so now she sees them working in their yard or barbecuing with others and it cuts her deeply.

Her divorce is being drug out because he refuses to give her half of the assets even though it is Florida’s law that he has to do so. He can’t marry this other woman until he divorces from Roni so you’d think he’d be in a hurry. Problem is he cashed in the stocks and spent all the money on renovating his new house and accessories for his boat so now he doesn’t have her half. Legally, he is liable for it but it means drawing out the divorce even longer.

She can’t get on with her life because he won’t let her yet he flaunts how easily he moved on with his. I, personally, volunteered to come down and egg his house or boat with her but she, of course, won’t stoop that low. She is a better person then I am. I’d be having my lawyer seize his property until he forked over the money. He’d pay it pretty quickly if his flashy boat was impounded.

Some days no matter what I say I can’t get her to smile. Today was one of those days. She had a very bad day at work and ran into her ex-best friend on her way into town. Telling her the pain will go away or lesson in intensity over time seems pretty blah to me. I know when I’m down someone telling me things will get better doesn’t cheer me up. Platitudes should be something she hears from strangers or acquaintances – not a friend. I should be able to do better then that.

But I’ve never been divorced – so I can only imagine her the devastation she feels. So cyber world peeps – give me some insights or suggestions please.

The greater part of our happiness or misery depends on our dispositions and not our circumstances.
–Martha Washington

Another Tuesday…

As I started my walk across the bridge, a brisk headwind greeted me. Happy to have a breeze to cool me down as I sweat, I made the trek over and back. Laced on the breeze, the saltwater fragrance seemed to clear out my sinus’s. Below me the water was too dark from the clouds to see much of anything as far as depth went, still, I could imagine the sharks swimming beneath the surface. Wish I could see them – they say we have hammerheads in the Bay but I have yet to see any.

Boats raced towards docks, I assume because the thunder left them with the impression that rain was imminent. It never did come. In fact, I think my arms are slightly sun burnt from my short time out in the sun. Man, I’m a mass of sweat.

Now it is about time for me to get ready for work. I don’t look forward to going and half hope they call to cancel me. I’d like to do some work outside with my plants. But as short as they have been the past two weeks, I’m sure they won’t consider it.

Yes, I could use the money what with my son’s birthday being this week so I can’t complain. Now if we could only get a hurricane on my off days I’d make a ton of money. Of course, who wants to be locked down?

I’m glad I forced myself to walk today – it was very enjoyable. Tomorrow I think I’ll force myself to go to the beach.