We had a case at work this past week that has highlighted one of our nation’s biggest failures – the way we care for our elderly. It is just so sad the way we ship the people who gave us birth and raised us off on total strangers.
Our case involved a local nursing home. There was an elderly man, a dialysis patient, who wandered away from the nursing home. Did the staff report him missing when he wasn’t in bed that night? No. Did they report him missing at all the next day when he didn’t report for food or didn’t they notice he didn’t push his “help” button all day? Did they report him missing the next day when he missed his dialysis appointment? No.
It wasn’t until the hospital called about him missing dialysis and needing to reschedule him did they even realize he was missing. Of course we had people searching immediately for him but after so many days, the trail had grown cold.
The next afternoon, late in the day, a report came in about a body being found in a vacant lot a couple blocks from the nursing home. Yes, it was him.
How could the place let his absence go for so long? How is it possible that three different shifts of people failed to notice he wasn’t sleeping in his bed, going to the bathroom or eating his food?? Our staff was very down when the call came in about the body. We had all hoped for a much better outcome.
What do other countries do with their elderly? Modern medicine works so hard to keep people alive longer yet we fail to assure them any sort of quality of life – or even that their loved ones will be there to care that they lived longer. So many elderly people in these homes never have visitors. How is it possible that we could so ignore those who gave us life and raised us? Take a good look – you think your kids love you so much they’ll care for you better, well, bet your parents thought that about you too.
My father was often angry when I was most like him. –Lillian Hellman