Match.Com

Last month I bought into the whole hype of online dating even though I am not really looking to date anyone. Sounds silly, yes?

It sounded like an interesting way to meet guys back home who might be interested in hanging out when I got there. Because I don’t believe in love at first sight – being friends and buddies appeals to me more then trying to find a mate over the internet. That isn’t to say some friends wouldn’t have “benefits” but that would come later.

Love will come through a friend – I know it. I’ll be friends with someone, not really thinking about love or forever, and one day he’ll smile just so or give me a really good hug – and then the story of love begins. Toby Keith has a song that describes it rather well – “You Shouldn’t Kiss Me Like That.”

“I got a funny feeling, the moment that your lips touched mine. Something shot right through me – my heart skipped a beat in time. There’s a different feel about you tonight. Its got me thinking lots of crazy things. Even think I saw a flash a light – felt like electricity.

You shouldn’t kiss me like this, less you mean it like that. Cuz I’ll just close my eyes and I won’t know where I’m at. We’ll get lost on this dance floor spinning around and around and around. They’re all watching us now, they think we’re falling in love – they’d never believe were just friends. When you kiss me like this, I think you mean it like that – if you do baby kiss me again.

Everybody swears we make a perfect pair but dancing is as far as it goes. Girl you’ve never moved me quite the way your move me tonight – I just wanted you to know.

I guess my problem is that men on Match.com are looking for something more then I am. Or rather, looking for something more – faster – then I am. They want to jump right into the idea of dating, sex and the possibility of forever. It just isn’t in me. I’m not that easy to get and I know that sounds pompous and pretentious but I don’t mean it in the way most men think.

Life is so short – my family and friends hear me say this all the time. Yes, I want a forever mate but not one who is going to try to reel me in or tie me down. The only way I’ll ever know whether that will ultimately happen with someone is if we are friends first. The way he treats his own family, his dog, my family, and life in general will all show more about him then dating. Being friends means being who we are now – not the “dating” persona we put on to impress each other.

You would think this philosophy of mine would be popular with the opposite sex but it isn’t. I guess I’m going to have to withdraw from match.com and see if they have a friends.com instead.

Moving Update

This will be a short post because there is nothing to update really. I have a phone interview with the University next Monday – other then that, it is pretty much the same. I haven’t sorted, packed or gotten rid of anything else.

I did put in my official resignation letter so that is done. I will work harder on the rest now that it is February. Didn’t see much point in rushing until it was only a month away. I work best under pressure – like that adrenaline rush. Besides, a lot of the stuff I have to dispose of I can still use until closer to time to go.

I am still anxious about how it will all play out but I am growing more confident that it will, indeed, work out.

Friday Night Highlights

You wouldn’t believe how much my job can be frustrating one minute and funny as hell the next.

We had four vehicle vs pedestrian/bike crashes tonight. It seemed they came one right after another in synchronized chaos. Everyone lived. We did have a motorcyclist who lost control and wasn’t wearing a helmet. He had to be airlifted – they weren’t overly hopeful on his prognosis.

Then we had a guy call in countless times to apologize for bothering us. It was rather comical – he was so sincere too. Plus let’s not forget yesterday’s guy who couldn’t figure out how to dial *fhp on his cell phone – he called 911 for help.

All in all, it wasn’t a bad night. Towards the end it got tedious and aggravating but I knew it was also because I was getting so tired.

Tomorrow is Super Bowl Sunday so we get to wear civvies and everyone is bringing in their favorite football watching foods. I hope it is fun. The next day I work four hours and then have a day off. I have so much to do but I suppose the money will be nice too.

Things I’m Looking Forward To

Won’t be long and I’ll be back in Iowa, ready to do Iowa things. I’m really looking forward to do things with my family. We have a lot of catching up to do.

I look forward to the hiking all the local trails – in the Fall they are a cornucopia of stunning colors. Maybe I’ll even try my hand at some rock climbing in northwest Iowa.

WL has an old time movie theater that I am anxious to go to. It has great movie lighting and those old, uncomfortable seats. I grew up going to this theater and then my sister’s family owned it for a number of years so I went there often.

I’m looking forward to long bike rides – just me and nature. Now and then I might go with my old biking group up in Waterloo but basically it will be just me riding along enjoying the beautiful day. I will need to purchase a new bike as well – another thing I’m looking forward to doing.

Will go up to the Upper Iowa river – maybe do some tubing with a six pack floating nearby. The water is so crystal clear and just deep enough to float on. While I’m up there I’ll visit the sand caves and maybe climb the south face of Pike’s Peak. It isn’t too difficult of a free climb.

I’m looking forward to weekends in St. Louis and Chicago to shop and just take in the sights. Chicago has the museums plus the nightly boat ride out around the infamous lighthouse. St. Louis I’ve only been to twice and didn’t do much either time other then going to Worlds of Fun. I’m sure it has a lot more to offer.

I’m especially looking forward to walking Ryerson’s woods – it has a nice, steady incline which makes it a good workout.

Yes, I’ll miss Florida – a lot – but home is where the heart is. Fighting that need to be near family is counterproductive to my health and wellbeing.